My name is Alice. Puertorican alternative model at Cyanide Nation Alternative Modeling. Just another 19 year old penniless model/actress trying to get somewhere someday. Geek and new to cosplaying, hopefully will do more soon. I have a passion for all kinds of art: theater, music, tattoos and others. Engaged, cat lady and hermit. Anything else you want to know feel free to ask ^^
Posted this graphic on another blog about a year ago-people still don’t know about this, so I’m reposting again here. Whatever your sexuality (or lack of sexuality) is, you are not alone. :)
It does merit to point out that bisexuals are a far more closeted population, so this is entirely consistent with people “never having met” a bisexual.
When people tell me “I’ve never met a bisexual” I’m like, "yes, yes you have. Just because they didn’t tell you doesn’t mean they aren’t there.”
Bisexuals are everywhere-but I think a lot of bisexuals don’t know we are everywhere. That’s who I was mostly thinking about posting this graphic-while I love to rub it in the faces of biphobes that, “haha, we do exist!” I mostly post things like this for bisexuals.
When I was 13 years old, I happened across a book that explained what bisexuality was and that 1 in 10 people had experienced same-gender attraction (I actually think it’s higher than that, but). That was how I found out that I was bi. I actually thought I was the only not-gay, not-straight person in the world. That book, that one small section on bisexuality, is why I am where I am today. (It was a similar experience with my gender identity and the book Luna by Julie Anne Peters.)
While it is so so painful to have to reassert ourselves and our identities over and over to monosexists who don’t believe we exist, what I really hope is that some bisexual person, who may not even know they are bisexual yet, hears from us that they are real, their identity is valid, and that they are not alone. :)
And most the time bisexual people are only seen with one partner, so one cannot look at them and their partner and say, that person is bi-sexual. The assumption is they are monosexual with the gender of the person they are currently with. The assumption that you are the sexuality of your current visible relationship pairing is quite damaging. But even those who display over time very publicly their bisexuality, the public takes a very “now” assumption approach and labels them based only on that current relationship and disregards all previous information.
In short, just stop. If someone says they are bisexual, take it at face value and accept it. Don’t look for proof. There is no goodies we get for saying we are bi, so there is no reason to suspect us. Bi isn’t exotic enough to be special snowflake syndrome. There is no reasonable ulterior motive for someone saying they are bi. So just believe it. The more out bisexual people are believed, the more who will come out.
Jessica Rey presents the history of the evolution of the swimsuit including the origins of its design, how it has changed overtime and the post-feminist association of the bikini symbolizing female empowerment. She refers to neuro-scientific studies revealing how male brains react to images of scantily clad women versus images of women deemed modest and what the implications of the results are for women in society.
(Note: As the OP, I disagree with Rey’s approach to putting the onus on women to alter ourselves rather than to alter the male perception of women – brain wiring has plenty to do with socialization and if we worked against the culture that fuels men’s objectification of women, women’s clothing choices would matter far less in terms of how men perceive us and determine how to interact with us).